Dr Isis on mentoring

May 31 2013 Published by under Academics

As they say, run, don't walk.

Becoming the Mentor I Want to Be VS the Mentor I Need to Be

And how to not ask questions like a girl…

11 responses so far

  • What kinda motherfucken blogge doesn't allow comments!?!?!?!? What the fucken fucke is that buulshhittte????

  • And that is a fucken great poste!!!!

  • drugmonkey says:

    Right?!!??

  • rs says:

    can not comment there, so putting it here. Yes, the rules are different for men and women. Absolutely best from her and very true.

  • SM says:

    Thank you Isis.

  • Hermitage says:

    Srsly, omgerd y can i no haz comments?

    As a developing estrogen-tipped missile with a more 'dignified' boss, it makes me feel better that it can be an effective mentoring style. I've never had a mentor like that, and it made me worry that it was wrong, ineffective and needed to be eradicated. Maybe I can find a way to combine the two...

  • Sop scientist says:

    Amazing post. I had an amazing female thesis supervisor and an amazing female post doc supervisor. Although very different in their mentoring styles from one another, they too pushed and pulled me through and I owe them my career. Yes they treated me differently than their male trainees and yes it pissed me off at the time. But as Isis says....they did it for very good reasons. Now, I too cannot be the quiet dignified type. Thank you Isis for writing with such clarity and perception. I am delighted you remain such a strong voice in the blogosphere.

  • rs says:

    Also completely echoe with her experience about finding post-doc while pregnant. I had very similar experience when I was moving from Europe to USA and I was looking for a post-doc position. I had a correspondence with a very known PI in an MRU. He was very excited and wrote me a very long email what amazing things his lab is doing and what I can do in his lab once I am there (I was coming from a known group with high recommendation), until I told him (very naively) that I have a toddler and probably will need some time to settle down (and find child care etc) in the new country. That was it. He never replied any of my emails back.

  • Busy says:

    I’ll admit that I have sometimes been harder on women that I have thought had potential.

    I'm hardest on people who have potential (male or female). If you are not (yet) a world class scientist I'll give you a few "wax on, wax off" exercises to go and do on your own. If, on the other hand, you seem to have world class potential then I'll spend all my time in the dojo, erh, I mean lab, correcting even slight mistakes since at that might one day make the difference.

    I've seen comparably talented students with widely diverging career successes due to the lack of attention-to-detail finishing-school supervision.

  • Thanks for the feedback, dudes. I appreciate it.

    For the record though, Medium does allow comments. They get put in line with the text though, which is different than the format WordPress uses. Hover your mouse to the right of the text and you'll see a little plus sign. You can use that you leave your comment.

    XOXOXO to you all.

  • Isabel says:

    trite. And I thought she finally quit blogging? Couldn't do without the narcissistic supply I guess.

    "I went back largely because he was adorable and I really had nothing better to do.

    A few years later, he decided that we were going to graduate school."

    nauseating. People actually identify with this?

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