and bam! the world turns a little bit.

Jul 02 2012 Published by under Ponder

sometimes stuff just brings you up short, you know?

Between our high schools, there were three out/outed gay kids. Not one – 0% – of them lived long enough to graduate. All three committed suicide – two in “car accidents” and one with his father’s gun.

I missed the GertyZ-hosted Diversity in Science carnival, Pride Edition.

Whether you are one of us queer scientists, an active ally, or a person who realizes that they have queer friends and/or family members that they care about. What does queer advocacy mean to you? What works? How do these issues change your life as a scientist?

Or, probably not "missed" it. I thought about chiming in several times. But as you know, Dear Reader, I don't like taking up self-appointed mantles of "ally" or anything like that.

I don't feel like I have anything authoritative to say beyond, "Be a fucking decent person, why doncha?".

And it isn't that hard at all. I am not particularly special, I've lived in a fairly heteronormative path of life and I'm, as a certain beloved blog commenter is fond of pointing out, blind as a bat to many of the hyphengendered issues.

So all I ever have is the usual.

I have friends that are gay. Friends from high school, friends from college (hmm, not sure about grad school, have to think about that) and friends from now. Colleagues in my professional life. Members of the extended family. Gay parents in the neighborhood within which I do my own parent thing.

They all deserve the same things everyone else deserves. Period, end of story, why is this even an issue anymore. This is the level of obviousness to me.

Advocacy? Not really, no.

I'm sure many of you are not much different from me....all I can ask is that you take the low-inertia path. Many of you are already on social media of various stripes....just take that extra effort to post your links and views and RT the hell out of things you see that support equality. It isn't big stuff but then, you already know how to bake your own cookies, right? you don't need your back patted.

You just want to make your support emphatically clear. You never know when a teenager is going to run across a critical mass of support out there at at a critical moment. Or when a right-wing relative on Fb is finally open to reason. Or when that advocacy link you posted or RT'd will finally, *finally* get through to Uncle Joe.

3 responses so far

  • Gerty-Z says:

    yes. this. thanks, and I'm glad to count you as an ally.

  • grainofsand says:

    ...or when some GLBT person in your life is going to see your support and breathe a little easier, knowing that at least one person's on their side. Or when your homophobic colleague actually curbs their tongue because you're making it normal to support gay folks, not bash us. Little moments of VISIBLE support like this can have huge effects. Thanks a mole!

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